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About Debra

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My Story

 

2016-01-24 15.15.42 2016-01-24 15.08.10For more years than I would like to admit life and relationships in particular were a minefield and a mystery to me.

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My relationship story started when I was very young, I got married when I was 19 years old, just after I turned 21 I had a beautiful baby girl, eight weeks later I was having an affair. I left my marriage and moved in with the man I was having the affair with, it was a disaster, but, through guilt or desperation or maybe both, I stayed, despite the fact that the relationship was very unhealthy.

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I told myself I had made my bed and I must lie in it. I was punishing myself for what I had done.

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I punished myself for the next 20 years. During that time I went on to have two more children and what I didn’t realise at the time, was that all three of my children were being punished too.

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I didn’t like myself very much, I had no confidence and I felt scared every day. Although I loved my children and I was doing the best I could, I was not a good mother.  I didn’t believe I deserved any better, my life was a mess.

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Eventually I found the strength to leave. But by this time my family was in tatters, I remember one particular day sitting on the floor, squeezing myself as tightly as I could into a corner, pushing with my feet on the floor so my back hurt against the wall and digging my nails into my forearm trying to make the physical pain I was feeling greater than the terrible ache inside. I was terrified, empty and alone; I had lived with fear anxiety and the feeling of walking on eggshells for far too long.

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But something happened that day and I knew that I had to get up and turn my life around, I just didn’t know how.

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That came later.

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I was supremely lucky.

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I wasn’t going to let my children follow my path and suffer the way I had.

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I wasn’t going to be a victim for a second longer.

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So I began a very steep and often-painful learning curve to the mentally and emotionally stable place I am in now and have gently and lovingly guided my family into too. We are now a strong and happy family, and I have an amazing life that I love.

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So what Happened that changed my life so dramatically and helped my children to become happy healthy adults too?

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In 2011 I came across Three Simple Spiritual Principles, understanding these principles is enough to transform anyone’s life for the better. If it hadn’t happened to me on such a personal level then I think I would have struggled to believe it.  But it did and what’s more these principles continue to help the people I work with who begin to understand like me. You can never stop seeing this more and more deeply and continue to have a better and better life day by day. 

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I worked as a volunteer for Women’s Aid for four years, teaching women who had been victims of domestic abuse to change their lives for the better, and build new healthier relationships. During that time my understanding deepened considerably.

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So I started my own business helping others who had had similar experiences to me.

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The work I do now is all about sharing what I learned, and what has helped me totally transform my life, the lives of the people I love the most and the lives of the people I have worked with over the years.

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I have been very lucky, I have seen first hand for myself, and watched countless others find what it means to truly to live from your heart and know your own mind. Relationships start to work, businesses grow, things get done, life seems to unfold with a much deeper sense of ease, and when things don’t go exactly as we had hoped (as invariably happens to everyone from time to time) we have the resources we need to get through, however big or small the problem is.

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What I have learned has surprised me, it wasn’t the answer I was expecting. But I see now that from my small perspective as a human being I would never have seen what was possible, even the very best thing I could have imagined wouldn’t come close to the truth I now see.

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Life is all about relationships, mostly the relationship you have with yourself when that works your life will work too

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So why am I telling you all this?

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Well I want you to take advantage of what I’ve learned about life, and relationships, and what I have been lucky enough to share with my family and friends that has changed their lives for the better too.

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I don’t want you to get to the point of terrible suffering before you decide its time for change.

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I don’t want you to feel trapped, empty and scared, like there is no way out and contemplate any of the awful things we do at dark times in our lives.

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I don’t want YOU to wait to have YOUR great and happy life, the life I am living right now, complete with building my own business doing work I love, having a wonderful relationship with my partner and my children, in short a life that in the past I could only dream of!

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Just think how different your life could be if only guilt, tension, anxiety, loneliness, anger, upset, stress and pressure (feel free to add your own particular flavor of discord) didn’t have the power to make you feel so lost and unhappy.

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What would that mean to you and the people you love?

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